Advocating for Your Child Who Has Behavioral Challenges
Issue: My child’s behavior is causing problems at home.
Strategy: Carefully consider what triggers behavioral problems at home. Keep a journal for a while and make notes about what events cause your child to act out inappropriately, including a description and the duration of the behavior. This information may give you an idea of what triggers some behaviors and how to avoid or handle outbursts. Your notes will be useful when you meet with professionals (teachers, counselors, etc.) to help your child.
Issue: I don’t know how to handle my child’s behaviors.
Strategy: Disciplining children is actually teaching them how to be responsible for their own behaviors. It’s important that you define rules and expected behavior for your child. Let her know what the consequences will be and ask for her input on what she thinks would be appropriate consequences. You may be pleasantly surprised! Use positive or natural consequences that teach your child how to make better choices.
Issue: It seems like all I do is reprimand my child. I get so discouraged.
Strategy: Plan ahead for those times when you think your child might have a difficult time with her behavior. Be patient and stay calm. Model the good behavior you are expecting your child to have. Be consistent when consequences are necessary.
Issue: Our family is much happier when my child is not getting into trouble.
Strategy: Reinforce your child’s positive behaviors. Reward her accomplishments and regularly provide positive feedback. Give praise at the first response to your instructions and continue giving praise if the task will take some time to complete. Use specific words and actions that will encourage your child to continue making good choices. Say the positive behavior that is expected; do not use negative statements like “Stop that” or “Don’t run” (say, “I need you to walk”). Give choices whenever possible. Make sure both choices are something you want her to do.
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