Adolescence
As a child with AS matures into adolescence, the social and academic worlds become more complex, and there is an expectation that the child should become more independent and self-reliant. In the early school years, social play tends to be more action than conversation, with friendships being transitory and social games relatively simple with clear rules. In adolescence, friendships are based on more complex interpersonal rather than practical needs—someone to confide in rather than someone with whom to play ball.
During adolescence, a teenager with AS is likely to have increasingly conspicuous difficulties with planning and organizational skills, and completing assignments on time. This can lead to a decline in school grades. Though the teenager’s intellectual abilities have not deteriorated, the methods of assessment used by teachers have changed. Knowledge of history is no longer remembering dates and facts, but organizing a coherent essay. The study of English requires abilities with characterization and to “read between the lines.” A group of students may be expected to submit a science project, which may prove difficult for the teenager with AS who is not easily assimilated into a working group of students.
The signs of AS are more conspicuous at times of stress and change, and during the teenage years there are major changes in expectations and circumstances. The child may have coped well during his or her pre-adolescent years, but changes in the nature of friendship, body shape, school routines and support may become challenges for teens with AS.
We know that the child with AS has difficulty socializing with his or her peers. If that child also has superior intellectual ability, difficulties in social integration may be compounded. Those children with exceptionally high IQs may compensate by becoming arrogant and egocentric, and have considerable difficulty acknowledging that they have made a mistake or compromising with others. Such children can be hypersensitive to any suggestion of criticism, yet overly critical of others, including teachers, parents or authority figures.
It is essential that the individual with AS have an understanding of the many and complex challenges and assets that comprise this exceptionality. While it is necessary that they learn new skills and coping mechanisms, it is essential that individuals with AS understand that they are inherently good and valued, as is communicated by the following self-affirmation pledge of those with AS written by Liane Holliday Willey (Willey 2001, p.164).
I am not defective. I am different.
I will not sacrifice my self-worth for peer acceptance.
I am a good and interesting person.
I will take pride in myself.
I am capable of getting along with society.
I will ask for help when I need it.
I am a person who is worthy of others’ respect and acceptance.
I will find a career interest that is well suited to my abilities and interests.
I will be patient with those who need time to understand me.
I am never going to give up on myself.
I will accept myself for who I am.
I consider the last pledge, “I will accept myself for who I am,” as a major goal for individuals with AS.
References
Attwood, T. (1998). Asperger’s Syndrome: A Guide for Parents and Professionals. London: Jessica Kingsley.
Attwood, T. (2003). Frameworks for behavioural interventions. Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Clinics, 12, 65-86.
Willey, L.H. (2001). Asperger Syndrome in the Family: Redefining Normal. London: Jessica Kingsley.
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