Growing Your Child's Emotional Intelligence - Ages 8 - 10 (page 2)
Emotional Intelligence is a wide range of skills that children of all ages can develop and improve. These skills are critical for emotional wellbeing and life success. ThisYouth Deployment Activity Guide is designed to give you additional age appropriate resources that are helpful in teaching your child about emotions. The emotional and social skills that are presented were written in order to help you grow your child.
My Special Gifts and Talents
Everyone has something they do well. It may be in a sport, or playing a musical instrument, or even a particular subject like math. A person can even be good at making friends. Whatever a person does well can be a gift or talent. See if you can recognize your own gifts and talents.
Of your talents, which are you most proud? Why?
What would the world be like if everyone had the same gifts and talents?
What if everyone on the baseball team was a good pitcher, but no one did well at running or hitting?
What is one of the nicest things you could say about yourself?
What are some things you’ve been able to show other people how to do?
I, ________________________________, bring these special gifts and talents to my community.
Name That Emotion!
How familiar are you with emotions? Use this exercise to help you have fun finding out about different emotions that are important for you to know. See how many different words from the two following groups of emotions below you can use to fill in the blanks in the sentences. Write them in the boxes below each sentence.
proud helpful calm alert quiet surprised eager delighted hopeful curious excited friendly pleased relieved interested glad happy amazed ashamed confused jealous sorry angry uneasy concerned impatient disliked scared worried depressed embarrassed abandoned sad guilty
- I was so __________ when I won the spelling bee.
- The ‘D’ I got on my math test made me feel _________.
- The class was _________ when the alarm sounded.
- I felt________ when my best friend made fun of me during lunch.
- Dad was _________ when I missed my foul shot.
- This math problem makes me feel _________.
- I felt ___________ when my friends went to the movie without me.
- She was so _________ at the last scout meeting
You’re Not the Boss of Me!
Assertiveness looks like a big word, but it’s easy and important for you to understand. It means that you can defend your beliefs and take care of yourself. You have a right to take up for your beliefs, feelings, thoughts and opinions. You need to develop skills in order to do this.
Can you do any of the following?
- Are you able to refuse doing things that aren’t right?
- When you don’t agree with someone are you able to speak up and share your views?
- Can you avoid things that will hurt you?
- Can you avoid letting other people influence your decisions?
- Do you have confidence in your own judgment?
- o you ask for help when you need it?
Here are some steps to help you stand up for yourself:
- Decide what you want to change and believe in your rights. (For example: A friend is always telling you what to do.)
- Describe to the other person involved, the situation as you see it. Be specific. (“You’re always bossing me.”)
- Describe why you feel as you do using an “I” statement. Be firm, strong, look at the person and be sure of yourself. (“I feel irritated because I can take care of myself.”)
- Describe changes you’d like made. Be specific about what actions should stop and what should start. Be reasonable and willing to make changes in return. (“I want you to stop always telling me what to do, and instead, ask me what I’d like to do.”)
Now, pick a situation that you want to change. It could be with a friend or with someone in your family. Maybe someone hurts your feelings when they tease you, or maybe someone is bullying you. Go through the four steps. You might want to practice with another person, your pet or a stuffed animal. Remember, you have the right to be who you want to be!
Planting Seeds to Independence
What kind of person are you going to become? Think about words that describe who you are
now and who you want to become as you become more independent.
Do you know what it means to be responsible? It means that you can be depended upon and can handle the results of your actions. Are you a responsible person? Ask yourself the
following questions to help you find out. Write your answers on the lines.
Do you quit when you are not doing well? _____________________________
Always keep trying.
Do you control your temper or do you throw things, scream or hit when you don’t get your way? ____________________________________________
Always control yourself. Wait your turn, and show courtesy and good manners.
Are you a good loser? __________________________________________
Win with grace. Don’t brag when you win or make excuses when you lose. Take pride in how you play the game, not just whether you win. Always remember the importance of not harming others by words or actions. Everyone has a right to meet his or her own needs.
Go For It!
Self-Actualization means working to reach your goals and being eager to follow your dreams. It means knowing what you want to do in life and caring about improving yourself. Work on skills in order to know who you are and in order to have a full life.
Sometimes it takes courage to try a new skill because you are afraid you might fail or be embarrassed. Try being a risk taker. Pick a skill you’d like to develop. It could be something as
simple as being a better listener or being on time. It could be something harder, like volunteering answers in class. Use the flowchart below to help you. Each time you practice your skill, write it in the next box. Be a confident goal setter – you can do it!
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