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Nonfiction to Help Teenagers Learn Who They Are and Where They Fit (continued)

by A.P. Nilsen|K.L. Donelson
Source: Pearson Allyn Bacon Prentice Hall
Topics: Preteen Years (9-13), Teen Years (13-19), Reading Genres, Talking With Your Teen About Sexuality

The exploration of sexual matters in books for young readers is an especially sensitive area for the following reasons:

  1. Young adults are physically mature, but they probably have had little intellectual and emotional preparation for making sex-related decisions.
  2. Parents are anxious to protect their children from making sex-related . decisions that might prove harmful.
  3. Old restraints and patterns of behavior and attitudes are being questioned, so that there is no clear-cut model to follow.
  4. Sex is such an important part of American culture and the mass media that young people are forced to think about and take stands on such controversial issues as homosexuality, premarital sex, violence in relation to sex, and the role of sex in love and family relationships.
  5. Talking about sexual attitudes and beliefs with their teenage children may make parents uncomfortable, especially if the father and the mother have different views. This means that many young people must get their information outside of the home.

While some books focus specifically on a problem such as AIDS or pregnancy, it is more common for books to cover emotional as well as physical aspects of sexual activity. No single book can satisfy all readers, and this is true of those dealing with sex education. An entire collection must be evaluated and books provided for a wide range of interests, attitudes, beliefs, and lifestyles. Those who criticize libraries for including books that present teenage sexual activity as the norm have a justified complaint if the library does not also have sex education books that present, or even promote, abstinence as a normal route for young people.

Materials dealing with sex are judged quite differently from those on less controversial topics. For example, in most subject areas, books are given plus marks if they succeed in getting the reader emotionally involved, but with books about sex, some adults feel that it is better for young readers to be presented with straightforward, "plumbing manuals"—the less emotional involvement the better. Other adults argue that it is the emotional part that young people need to learn. Coming to agreement is not at all easy because adults have such varying attitudes and experiences.

Well-planned and well-written books can present information about different viewpoints, and teachers and librarians are performing a worthwhile service if they bring such books to the attention of young people. Over the last few years, we have noticed that women's magazines are increasingly using sex-related articles as a selling point. In magazines for young women, many of the articles are written as though their purpose is sex education, when in fact they border on what Playboy editors once described as "pious pornography." Women who have inhibitions or feel guilty about sex can think and talk about sexuality as long as they are doing it to learn something, especially if they are made to feel that they are being unselfish in learning to "please their man." We were talking about this in one of our summer school classes, which had an unusually large number of parents in it, and casually remarked that maybe there was no longer a need for sex-education books because kids could get all the information they wanted from the Internet. There was an immediate uproar with the parents in the class saying there was a greater need than ever for well-thought-out and well-designed books, if for nothing more than warning kids against entering into sex-related conversations on Web chat rooms, and so on. The consensus from the parents was that they wanted their children to have nothing at all to do with sexual information posted on the Internet.

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