Parents Be a Role Model for Your Child

Education

Everyone benefits

Take interest in your child’s education and development:

• Read to your child and encourage your child to read.
• Meet with your child’s teachers often and learn about your child’s progress.
• Review homework and tests.
• Set short- and long-term educational goals together and help your children reach their goals.
• Encourage your child to participate in an after-school program.
• Give your child household responsibilities/chores.
• Children who aren’t interested in school, who have friends who use alcohol/drugs, and who are not bound by rules are more likely to use alcohol/drugs.
• Let your child know you disapprove of drug use, including alcohol, and WHY.

Peaceful solutions ...another way

How to get your way without fighting:

• Talk clearly and calmly. State the problem and your desire to solve it without fighting.
• Humor—Make fun of the problem.
• Compromise—Both give up something and get something.
• Avoid/ignore—Sometimes it’s not worth the bother.
• Remember, it takes more guts and self-respect to walk away from a fight than to fight.

Bullying.....No Way

Prevent your child from becoming a VICTIM:

• Instill self-confidence in your child.
• Help your child establish good social skills.
• Teach your child to speak out for him or herself.
• Teach your child to seek, if harassed, help from you and other caring adults.
• Try to meet with the bully to work things out. If the problem continues,call for a meeting of all those involved.

Prevent your child from becoming a BULLY:

• Present yourself as a model of nonviolent behavior.
• Clearly state that violence is not acceptable.
• Assist your child in finding nonviolent strategies for anger management and conflict resolution.
• Seek help from mental health/school counselors to help stop bullying and aggressive behavior.

Gangs are not family

Many youth join gangs looking for affection. Gangs only look out for their own interests and forget about yours. Gangs are violent...they intimidate, hurt, and kill people. Gangs lead to self-destruction.

GUNS...Not the Solution

• The presence of guns can turn conflicts into violent confrontations resulting in serious injury or death.
• Guns are more likely to kill a friend or family member (unintentionally or through suicide) than an enemy.
• Parents-don’t own a gun; but if you do, store itunloaded and uncocked in a locked place.
• Children should be taught not to touch or play with firearms.

Seeing Violence...Through a Child’s Eyes

Children who have seen violence are more likely to become involved in violence as victims or perpetrators. You can:

• Minimize your child’s exposure to violence.
• Tell your child that media violence is not real - it is glamorized, misleading, and fails to depict the real pain and suffering of the victims.
• Talk to your child about the violence he or she witnessed.
• If you see changes in your child, after they’ve witnessed a violent act, talk to a mental health professional.
• Some warning signs of emotional distress related to witnessing violence include sleeplessness, lack of appetite, lack of attention, anxiety, and frequent thoughts or flashbacks of the event.

Rules for quality time together

Teens

• Don’t insult, shout, walk out or away...SHOW RESPECT.

Parents

• Don’t boss, preach, judge, or criticize...SHOW RESPECT.

For Both

• Spend more than 15 minutes each day together listening and talking.
• Don’t have outside interruptions.
• Don’t blame or try to defend anyone.
• DO MAKE one-on-one time SPECIAL.

Be a role model

• Warm family relationships protect children FROM violence and many other risky behaviors.
• Be aware that everything you do, your children see and do.
• Talk to them and, most important, listen to them.
• Spend valuable time with them that includes fun activities.
• Find out who their friends are and if they are a positive influence.
• Find out where they hang out and make sure it’s safe.
• Let them know you disapprove of fighting.
• Keep your children “drug and violence-free."