Parents Be a Role Model for Your Child (page 2)
Here is what we can all do to help keep our children “violence-free”
Parents and caregivers are vital to the healthy development and growth of children. We all know this, but what can we do better to enrich our children? Helping children learn more about themselves and their environment can be a key step in preventing school and youth violence. Parents want children to be safe, and children want to feel and be safe.
The following information will be both helpful to you as a parent and caregiver, as well as to your children. So take time to read and make time to share this with your children. Violence prevention begins with YOU. Remember to make time to listen, take time to talk...these can be precious moments.
Show love and concern
- Every day, tell your child you love him/her.
- Show affection daily with a hug, a kiss, and/or a touch.
- Make time for special family fun activities.
- Meet your child’s friends to ensure he/she has positive influences.
Understand - don’t take a stand
Children who don’t know how to control their anger are more likely to fight. Teach children how to calm down and talk over their problems. Tips for keeping cool and solving a problem:
- Keep in mind that anger is real, but it usually goes away.
- To calm down, think about or do things you enjoy.
- Once you have calmed down, think about the problem with a clear head.
- Take steps to solve the problem.
Is a two-way street
Children who have good communication with their parents are more likely to ask for their advice than turn to peers. When talking to your child, always remember to:
- Listen to your child.
- Find out what your child knows about violence and how to prevent it before you start talking.
- Let your child know he/she can always talk to you about anything.
Find out what it means to me
Many youth fight because they feel disregarded and, as a result, feel angry, humiliated, or embarrassed. To stay violence-free, respect means:
- Give respect so you may get respect.
- Stand up for yourself without putting yourself in danger.
- Discuss ways to solve problems without fighting.
- Respect is not gained by physical force or intimidation, but by the quality of your character.
- Fighting doesn’t solve a problem or get you respect.
Take interest in your child’s education and development:
- Read to your child and encourage your child to read.
- Meet with your child’s teachers often and learn about your child’s progress.
- Review homework and tests.
- Set short- and long-term educational goals together and help your children reach their goals.
- Encourage your child to participate in an after-school program.
- Give your child household responsibilities/chores.
- Children who aren’t interested in school, who have friends who use alcohol/drugs, and who are not bound by rules are more likely to use alcohol/drugs.
- Let your child know you disapprove of drug use, including alcohol, and WHY.
Peaceful solutions ...another way
How to get your way without fighting:
- Talk clearly and calmly. State the problem and your desire to solve it without fighting.
- Humor—Make fun of the problem.
- Compromise—Both give up something and get something.
- Avoid/ignore—Sometimes it’s not worth the bother.
- Remember, it takes more guts and self-respect to walk away from a fight than to fight.
Prevent your child from becoming a VICTIM:
- Instill self-confidence in your child.
- Help your child establish good social skills.
- Teach your child to speak out for him or herself.
- Teach your child to seek, if harassed, help from you and other caring adults.
- Try to meet with the bully to work things out. If the problem continues,call for a meeting of all those involved.
Prevent your child from becoming a BULLY:
- Present yourself as a model of nonviolent behavior.
- Clearly state that violence is not acceptable.
- Assist your child in finding nonviolent strategies for anger management and conflict resolution.
- Seek help from mental health/school counselors to help stop bullying and aggressive behavior.
Gangs are not family
Many youth join gangs looking for affection. Gangs only look out for their own interests and forget about yours. Gangs are violent...they intimidate, hurt, and kill people. Gangs lead to self-destruction.
Reprinted with the permission of the Department of Health and Human Services.
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