Starting Over: Stepfamilies

Most stepchildren seem to have reasonably positive views of their stepfathers. Close relationships between stepchildren and stepparents have positive effects on children's academic achievement and psychological well-being, and introducing a stepparent even in adolescence can be beneficial to children's adjustment (Amato, 1999a; Buchanan et aI., 1996; Hetherington & JodI, 1994). In general, stepparents can have a positive impact on their stepchildren's lives.

But step families also present special challenges. Although remarriage has the potential to increase financial security, there is also the risk that it may worsen children's financial circumstances. Some experts point out that remarried parents, particularly remarried fathers, may feel pressure to provide first for their new spouse's children from a prior marriage or for biological children they have with their new spouse. As a consequence, these parents may decrease financial and/or emotional support to their biological children from a previous marriage, especially if these biological children do not live with them (Wallerstein et al., 2000).

Additionally, although this is not inevitable, the quality of parenting is often even lower in remarried families than in single-mother households. The rules change, family members take on different roles, and it takes time to sort things out and establish new routines and responsibilities. There may be competition between children and stepfather for the mother's time and attention, leaving the mother with less time than before to parent effectively. Such competition may be more stressful for girls than for boys, especially if daughters have been providing friendship and close emotional support to their divorced mothers. Stepfathers tend to be less involved and less emotionally supportive than continuously married biological fathers, and they provide less discipline and supervision of children (Hetherington & Clingempeel, 1992). There is some evidence that establishing a successful relationship between stepparent and stepchildren may be more difficult when the children are adolescents than when they are younger, but this finding is not consistent (Bray, 1999; Buchanan et al., 1996). Generally, most children fare well in step families, but there are challenges.