Talking To Teens About Unintended Pregnancy (page 2)

What Can I Do?

Here are some tips for parents of teens based on research, expert opinion and the experience of other families, excerpted from “10 Tips for Parents to Help Their Children Avoid Teen Pregnancy” by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy:

1.  Know your own values and attitudes about sex in order to be able to communicate and discuss them.
2. Build a strong relationship with your teen, nurtured from an early age and built on open communication, trust and respect.
3. Begin early and be specific when talking about sex. Invite teens to share what they know or think.
4. As parents, supervise and monitor your kids—make sure someone is available for them after school or when you can’t be there.
5. Know and welcome your kids’ friends and their parents.
6. Discourage early and frequent dating.
7. Establish a rule with your son or daughter against dating someone who is more than 2 years younger or older.
8. Help your teens set goals and plan for the future so that they have good reasons to avoid getting pregnant early on.
9. Encourage your child to take school seriously. Show interest in your children’s work and volunteer at their school.
10. Be aware of what types of media your child is exposed to so you can help them think critically about the messages they are hearing.

What can I do if my teen becomes pregnant?

If pregnancy occurs, teenagers and their families may need sensitive and accurate counseling about options available to them.

What do teens want?

No single approach to teen pregnancy prevention is appropriate for all adolescents in all circumstances and in every community. It is clear, however, that there is demonstrated success when teens have:

• A range of choices. All adolescents need sexuality education that teaches them refusal skills and gives them up-to-date information about contraceptives and sexually transmitted infections before they are sexually active. The Institute of Medicine found that “sexuality education programs that provide information on both abstinence and contraceptive use neither encourage the onset of sexual intercourse nor increase the frequency of intercourse among adolescents…programs that provide both messages appear effective in delaying the onset of sexual intercourse and encouraging contraceptive use once sexual activity has begun, especially among younger adolescents.”
• Strong emotional attachments. Teens who are close to their parents are less likely to be sexually active early on.
• Parents’ advice. About 3 out of 4 adolescents 15 to 17 years old say that they have learned “some” or “a lot” on sexual health from their parents. Parents need to stress that there are consequences to sex besides pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections including the impact on a teen’s emotional development, family life and future goals.
• Contraception. About 8 out of 10 sexually active adolescents, 15 to 17 years old, say they use condoms regularly, but more than 40% of high school students say they did not use a condom at last sexual intercourse. A sexually active teen couple that does not use contraception has about an 85% chance of pregnancy within 1 year.