Teaching and Displaying Manners: Just an Old-Fashioned Custom?
At the conclusion of an evening presentation I gave for parents about "raising resilient children," I invited the audience to ask questions. The questions posed were very relevant to the topic I had addressed and ones that I am accustomed to hearing. They included:
"What do I do about sibling rivalry?"
"I have three children each with different kinds of temperament. How do I meet their unique needs, including having appropriate expectations for them, without each of them feeling I am not being fair?"
"My husband and I have very different discipline styles. He feels I don't set limits on our children and I let them get away with doing anything they want. I feel he's too strict. How do we resolve that problem?"
"How do I get my daughter to do her homework?"
"My kids never help out at home. They expect me to pick up their dirty clothes. What can I do so that they will be more cooperative?"
"My eight-year-old son is shy. He told me that sometimes he felt lonely. I keep telling him he has to make an effort to make friends, but he says he just doesn't care. I'm at a loss to know what to say."
It is not unusual after a Q&A period with the entire audience for parents to come up to speak with me privately. Understandably, some are hesitant to share concerns they have about their children in the presence of neighbors. Others have said to me that they tend to be shy and don't like to speak in public. Still others begin with the statement, "I didn't want to bring this up in front of other people because it might sound silly." In my experience these "silly" questions are not silly at all and are actually on the minds of most parents. Such was the case at a presentation I offered last year. A couple approached me. Since they were the last people on line I had a little more time to speak with them.
They told me that they were parents of a four-year-old daughter and a six-year-old son. The mother spoke first.
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