Understanding the connection between actions and consequences is a surefire way to build character. Require that your child take ownership of her behavior and actions. Give her a few chores that are appropriate for her age. When she's gotten the hang of those, give her more responsibilities and more freedoms, too. Once she's shown that she can handle dusting her room, have her start cleaning the bathroom sink too; but also give her more freedom to be in charge of her own time instead of scheduling out her days for her. Learning that responsibility and freedom go hand in hand will help shape her into an independent person.